What is the Key to Relationships

Keeping your personal relationship with your significant other, no matter what level you are at, is not only important, but essential. Whether you are just starting your relationship or are already married, one of the key aspects of keeping your relationship strong and ever growing is communication. There are many aspects of communication and how you relate to others, and we are going to concentrate on ways you can improve the interactions you have with your partner.

Communication is not limited to just the words you say. Not to drop facts on you, but the literal words you say only account for about seven percent (7%) of the overall message. I know you’re wondering where the other ninety-three percent (93%) comes from. It comes from body language and tonality. Body language accounts for about fifty-five percent (55%) and can be explained as body gestures, eye movements, facial expressions and body posture. The final thirty-eight percent (38%) comes from tonality. Tonality can be defined as the pitch and inflection used when speaking the words you are speaking.

So let’s begin by discussing topics to talk about. Bring up plans for the future. While this isn’t recommended if you are just getting to know someone or at least as your first discussion topic, but discussing the future and both your future plans as well as theirs is a great topic. This allows both of you to find out things about each other and not only where both of you are looking to go, but also where you are now. There are so many things you can talk about after this topic. The responses you get can lead you down so many different roads. This topic can also lead you to discuss things that are happening right now, just by asking ‘Why?’.

The question ‘Why?’ can lead you to what both of you are feeling at the moment you answered the question in the first place. This can give you a glimpse into how the other person sees the world and where they are in their life. So not only will asking the question about plans for the future give you information about expectations for the future, but you can use it to understand where the person is at currently as well.

This topic will help you get to the core of someone you are in a relationship with because there are so many different directions to take the conversation after this topic is brought up and the responses you receive.