Monday, May 31, 2010

Money and Relationships

There is one problem that troubles pretty much every relationship at one time or another. Money is a problem that continuously comes up in relationships. In one way or another, money affects every relationship, so being prepared for tough times as well as times when money is readily available is our focus.

Money seems to always be tight, especially in today's economy, so making sure this economy and money will not cause you any pain in your relationship is key. Take some time and write down everything that you spend money on for a given month. If it is easier on you, keep a log of everything that you spend money on, whether it is through credit, your bank account or with cash. Once you have done this, go back and look at where you can cut back and remove things from your list that you don't need. Having done so, make a plan where you will spend more wisely from this point on. Look at the things on your list and see if there are any ways that you can save. Coupons, buying in bulk and sales are some great ideas to look into.

Making sure money does not run your life is another key factor in keeping your relationship alive and well. Money is a key aspect of not only your life, but of your relationship as well. The key is to realize that while money is important, it is not the most important thing in your life. You have to find a balance. Putting in overtime, trying to work more and make extra money or taking on other jobs to supplement your income will only put a major strain on all you relationships. You have to remember that there are only 24 hours in a day and if you are working 18 hours of that, there is no time for your loved ones.

One last thing for working your way out of problems with money and keeping your relationship on track is to share these things with your partner. Once you have found out ways that you can cut back and manage your own situation better, go ahead and share this with the other person you are in a relationship with. This way you both can work together on making better money decisions and they can hold you accountable to the things that you want to work on.

It is important to remember through this whole thing that communication with your partner is the key to success. There is no need to hide your financial struggles, as they probably have some sort of knowledge of the situation already. Be open and communicate these things with your partner so you both are on the same page.

Wednesday, April 28, 2010

What is the Key to Relationships

Keeping your personal relationship with your significant other, no matter what level you are at, is not only important, but essential. Whether you are just starting your relationship or are already married, one of the key aspects of keeping your relationship strong and ever growing is communication. There are many aspects of communication and how you relate to others, and we are going to concentrate on ways you can improve the interactions you have with your partner.

Communication is not limited to just the words you say. Not to drop facts on you, but the literal words you say only account for about seven percent (7%) of the overall message. I know you’re wondering where the other ninety-three percent (93%) comes from. It comes from body language and tonality. Body language accounts for about fifty-five percent (55%) and can be explained as body gestures, eye movements, facial expressions and body posture. The final thirty-eight percent (38%) comes from tonality. Tonality can be defined as the pitch and inflection used when speaking the words you are speaking.

So let’s begin by discussing topics to talk about. Bring up plans for the future. While this isn’t recommended if you are just getting to know someone or at least as your first discussion topic, but discussing the future and both your future plans as well as theirs is a great topic. This allows both of you to find out things about each other and not only where both of you are looking to go, but also where you are now. There are so many things you can talk about after this topic. The responses you get can lead you down so many different roads. This topic can also lead you to discuss things that are happening right now, just by asking ‘Why?’.

The question ‘Why?’ can lead you to what both of you are feeling at the moment you answered the question in the first place. This can give you a glimpse into how the other person sees the world and where they are in their life. So not only will asking the question about plans for the future give you information about expectations for the future, but you can use it to understand where the person is at currently as well.

This topic will help you get to the core of someone you are in a relationship with because there are so many different directions to take the conversation after this topic is brought up and the responses you receive.

Tuesday, April 13, 2010

New YouTube Video

This is a video explaining how to bring up the questions you want to ask your boyfriend and ways to go about doing it. Don't forget to go by Ask Personal Questions for more information on questions to ask your boyfriend.

Tuesday, April 6, 2010

Questions to Ask Your Boyfriend

Getting to know your boyfriend can be a tough trick to pull off. Guys aren't always very forward with information about themselves so you may have to change the way you ask the questions to get him to be open to discussing such topics.

Setting up your questions in a type of game can be fun for both of you and can be something that your boyfriend would be up for. One way to do this is by rotating who gets to ask the question. You can start asking the first question and then let him ask any question he would like. You can also set it up where you both stay on the same topic and ask questions only relating to that topic.

Guys will like topics such as sex and activities, while you may want to know deeper things such as values and emotions. Getting him to open up about such things will be tricky, but asking the right questions can be the way to begin the conversation about such things and continuing with follow up questions can give you the information you would not be able to get naturally.

Now there are some questions to ask your boyfriend that you should wait to ask until you are further into your relationship, and there are also questions that you probably already know the answer to. If you are well into your relationship, then I would suggest you to ask all the questions you can, even if you know the answers. The reason is because things change and as people grow and grow together, your emotions and feelings change. This is perfectly normal and your answers to certain questions can change just as much as his answers can.

Another note to be aware of is that you have to be ready to know the truthful answers to the questions to ask your boyfriend that you are asking. You want your boyfriend to be truthful to the questions that you are asking him, just as you should be truthful to the questions he is asking. With both of you being totally truthful, you have to be ready if he does not answer the question you ask as you want or expect him to. This will definitely get you and your partner to know more about each other, but you have to be ready to accept what he says.

There are so many questions to ask your boyfriend and just getting to know him better should be the most important part of these interactions where you bring up these types of questions. Remember, drilling him with questions will make him feel like you are attacking him. Thus, work in these questions in a game like atmosphere or something light and fun.